Half of men’s dating advice is fundamentally flawed
Half of men's dating advice out there is built on quicksand.
Here's 2 scenarios...
Guy goes to a yoga class and plops down next to a sexy girl in yoga pants.
He chats her up.
At first she's warm but neutral, but as the convo progresses, she warms up.
She twirls her hair a bit…
She leans in and her smile becomes a little flirty…
Her answers are a bit more energetic... playfully reacting to his teasing and flirting back with him.
Second scenario.
Same guy.
Same girl.
Same juicy ass in the same yoga pants.
Guy says the same things.
At first she's warm but neutral, but as the convo progresses, she seems a little more distant…
She looks around as if not invested in the conversation.
Her energy fades, her responses seeming more dull…
What happened?
If your first instinct was "he did something wrong" then you've been roped in by the lies.
I don't think the coaches who teach this philosophy are purposefully lying to you...
I think they genuinely feel they're giving guys good advice.
There’s a book Mark Manson wrote before “The Subtle Art of not Giving a Fuck” called “Models: The Art of Attracting Women Through Honesty.”
In it, he talks about how there are only 3 kinds of women.
Women who are into you…
Women who are not into you…
And women who aren’t sure which camp they’re in yet.
After 10 years of consuming dating content left and right, applying it in the real world, then 5 years of making content myself, plus 15 years of deep inner work, I’ve created my own opinions, based on real-world dating data coupled with the deep inner work that I guarantee you ¾ of the dating coaches haven’t even touched.
A girl who IS into you is hard to turn OFF.
A girl who's NOT into you is hard to turn ON.
And the girls on the fence can be persuaded either way.
In my humble opinion? I only care about the girls who twirl their hair when I flirt with them.
Who, when they see that I'm making my moves, they enthusiastically show me they’re into me too…
They lean in when I talk to them, and give me obvious opportunities to put my arm around them.
The girls who give me obvious hints that they want me to ask them out.
The girls who want a piece of me as much as I want a piece of them.
Anyone else? Why bother.
Waste of energy.
Why flirt with a brick wall?
Or with a girl who’s not sure if she wants to flirt back?
When if I just flirted with a few more girls I’d find a hair-twirler 🤤
Are there seductive skills I can learn that make it more likely that I can create chemistry with women? 100000%
Honestly though, there's very little bang for the buck in learning tactics and behaviors.
Zan Perrion, another author I love puts it simply...
"You don't have to try to attract women... you're a man. She's a woman. Nature has taken care of that part... just sit back and enjoy the process."
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